I don’t have time to do this program. I am so busy – I need some kind of podcast – then I can do it. I am just too busy.
You know what, You are right. Of course you don’t have time to do it. You are busy at work or studying, children, partners families, cooking, cleaning … Majority of us find it hard to find time to allocate to the things we want to do. Daily demands really leave us with a very few essential resources to help our self-development and growth, and improvement.
Many people will prioritise their carer, children, partners, paying bills and other essentials over their own health and wellbeing.
For example, for many people when deadlines approaching, or stress inreases they start compromising their self- care routine: preparing healthy lunches, going to a gym, doing yoga. It becomes difficult to find time to relax and unwind, some of us take shortcuts with their nourishment and self-care. We might turn to fast food, have a glass of wine to unwind rather than spending time meditating, watching TV instead of going for a walk to talking to a friend.
All in all I get it, you don’t have time. You have other urgent things to do.
Let me tell you that I understand as well when you usually find time for the thing you need to do.
It happens when your doctor tells you that you are at risk of having diabetes if you don’t make life changes, learn to control your impulsive eating and start moving a bit more.
When your wife leaves you, after you could not control your temper again, when you realised that you reactive aggressive anger drove your wife away.
When you get fired after you embarrassed yourself at an office party, and your colleagues uploaded photos of you past out on the floor in the bathroom.
When someone got injured because in the heat of the argument you threw things without an intent to hurt someone.
When debt collectors start calling you daily and you are embarrassed to admit that you have 20 k debt because you were shopping for a stuff you don’t even need.
When you start dealing with serious consequences of your impulsive overeating, reactive aggressive anger outbursts, impulsive shopping, gambling and other addictive behaviours you are more likely to find time.
Sometime the pain you experience has to be quite great for you to take the first step, may be loosing job, friendships, intimate partner, health, future opportunities. Respect of others.
Unfortunately for some of us by the time we decide to do it it might be to late.
You don’t have to hit rock bottom to learn how to change. So prioritise, find time.
We are not talking about doing a university degree, spend 20-30 minutes a day to learn and understand the difficulties you experience better. BE in control of your life. Sign up today www.impulsivity.com.au and learn proven strategies to be in control of your behaviour at all times.
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